Is the Unreality of Vegas Transferring to Reality?

In her piece "Marring Absurd", Joan Didion ridicules marriages in Las Vegas. She explains that, in Las Vegas, "there is no "time"...no night and no day and no past and no future", and that "what happens there has no connection with "real" life" (paragraph 2). This includes the marriages that happen there; a wedding in Las Vegas has almost no meaning because all the traditional values of marriage have been sacrificed for efficiency and instant gratification. This is already common knowledge, so what does it prove? Well, I think everyone would agree that in the real world, marriage still has value and that the customs of a Vegas wedding are unique to Vegas. Basically, Vegas weddings and real life weddings are in completely separate categories. However, this does not mean that "real world" weddings are all perfect happy endings. The divorce rate in the United States has been steadily increasing since the beginning of the 20th century and spiked greatly in the 70s and kept going up from there. By 1985 the divorce rate was up to 50%! (http://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Historical_Divorce_Rate_Statistics) I can't help but wonder if the low values of Vegas weddings have influenced American culture and society's attitude toward marriage. In my opinion, too many people treat marriage like a game that they can play until they're bored, then quit. Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment, but more and more people get divorced each year. I suppose nothing can be proven, but I think Las Vegas weddings have lowered society's standards of marriage overall.

Is Manliness Unhealthy?

The whole point of Brad Manning's passage "Arm Wrestling with My Father" was to prove that communication can be made through a physical relationship as effectively as an emotional relationship. Manning wrote about his relationship with his father, which was strictly physical. It mainly revolved around sports and challenges of strength, including the arm wrestling matches that made such an impact on Manning as a child. Although this story may be true for Manning, it is the extreme stereotype of the way men communicate. Men are known to not talk about their emotions, and when they do it's considered feminine. I feel that this piece too strongly supported this stereotype. Although it may be true that some men are very unemotional, it's not the case for all men, especially not in today's society. It is becoming more and more accepted that men can be sensitive without being emasculated. In fact, being completely unemotional and unexpressive except through physical means is considered emotionally unhealthy.  The traditional definition of manliness is becoming outdated.  It’s no longer a desirable characteristic for a man to be completely unexpressive, whereas in history men who were sensitive were ridiculed.  I think Manning’s message is a little outdated and not necessarily a good thing.

Can True Creation Happen in a Lab?

"Grade A: The Market for a Yale Woman's Eggs" by Jessica Cohen questions the process of a very picky couple in finding an egg donor for their child, but I took from it the controversy of whether people should be able to choose characteristics for their children through egg donors or egg selections in labs. In the essay, Cohen describes the specific qualifications she had to meet to be considered by the couple, including physical appearance, height, weight, race, religion, SAT score, grades in school, and much more. The would-be parents wanted specific traits for their "perfect child". However, there is no way to guarantee the preferred traits in a child, no matter whose egg is used and what traits it contains. Genetics is a tricky subject dealing with dominant and recessive genes and having a gene pool containing two peoples DNA (the parents), and there's no way to guarantee what traits will show in the child. No matter how hard a person tries, they can't create a child without some unpredictability. Only nature can choose what characteristics a child will have. Technology has come so far that some people can view what genes their fertilized egg has to avoid genetic diseases, but this has also opened a window to choose other things as well, such as hair color, eye color, and other physical traits. I think this is wrong. Tampering with creation in its most basic level like this is playing at God. I don't care what religion you are or what you believe, but being able to choose your child’s genetic makeup makes him or her something you assembled, not created. I know that this is being done more and more frequently, but I feel that choosing a child’s genetic makeup makes them not quite human. I know this isn't true; genetically altered eggs become perfectly healthy and normal babies, but it seems wrong. I can't imagine genetically altering my child’s egg to have certain physical characteristics and looking at them when they grow up and thinking: I chose that hair color. I've always known that, whether I liked the way I looked or not, it is the way God made me. What If I instead I had to say it's the way my parents chose to make me? It just doesn't sit right with me.

 

Judging the Disabled: Choice or Instinct?

"Disability" by Nancy Mairs preaches acceptance of the disabled in our everyday lives and viewing disability as a normal part of life. Although she never specifically said it, Mairs's point is that we shouldn't judge the disabled and other minorities, but we should consider them equals. On the topic of judgment, I believe it's wrong to put labels on people and I try to keep an open mind. When I see someone in a wheelchair or someone with a mental disability, I consider what they've been through and think of them as regular people. I'd like to say that I don't judge, but even after all that, I know I judge everyone I see upon a single glance. Everyone makes unconscious judgments, whether they are aware of it or not. Some people may think they are above judging others if they are open minded and make an effort to see past differences, but even the least judgmental person judges everyone they see. The fact that we have to remind ourselves that a person in a wheelchair can play basketball, or that a mentally disabled person has favorite foods and tv shows just like everyone else, shows that we are trying to convince ourselves not to judge them. We only need to do that because we initially judge them when we first see them. If you're still not convinced that people judge no matter what, consider this: you are walking down the street and you pass a person in a wheelchair. Your first though will be to notice the wheelchair, and then you might feel pity or sympathy for the person. Even though that's not negative, you just judged the person in the wheelchair by thinking that, because of his disability, he leads a lower quality life and deserves your pity. Of course, this isn't true; people with disabilities still live happy lives. Their disability is just one characteristic about them that isn't necessarily pleasant. I think premature judgments are wrong, and that people should try to put them in a mindset to avoid it as much as possible, but I believe people cannot help judging to some extent.